Asking for support
I needed the support of so many people to get through 2019! After being pronounced free of prostate cancer, I’ve had the chance to reflect on how important that was.
We don’t like to ask for help.
Especially in the business context, we want to present this image of professionalism. Having it all solved and sorted. Being in control.
But the truth is that we can do nothing significant by ourselves. And we shouldn’t.
I had to admit my frailty and vulnerability, so I decided to be pretty open about it. Especially if it can help others address cancer early, as I did.
And guess what? People appreciated it. Everyone – to a person – expressed sincere concern and support. I’ve been on prayer chains all over the country.
What happens when you ask others for support? It shows people you’re human. It opens hearts.
Many years ago, I noticed that there was a powerful phrase where I worked: “I have a family emergency.” If anyone uttered this, it unleashed generosity, flexibility, and empathy. It opened doors. And the universal response was: “Go take care of it! We’ll be fine! Let us know if you need anything!”
And it was sincere.
I understand that not all workplaces are like this. But you may just be shocked at how generous people can be if you ask for their support.
Isn’t that the world you want to live in?
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